Guide to a guys’ mind: looks
Q: Why don’t guys love me at all? Why am I not lovable?
A: Ask yourself. How do you look compared to a beauty you know, any beauty. Have you consciously tried to enhance your looks?
Looks matter. Period. Deny it a million times, but guys do get attracted by good looks. Not only by good looks, but looks is an undeniable factor. We keep denying we dont care, but we do. Or the ‘she’s hot’ gene in us does. So what’s good looks?
Good looks = your figure + your dressing taste + grooming + grace + a beautiful smile
Figure: Is there a female-friendly gym near your home or work that you haven’t been going to despite easy access? Could you go for a run in your neighbourhood or some other place nearby or far that you aren’t going to?
If you have a hot figure who never gets fat(yea, there are people who’re like that), relax. If you aren’t, start tomorrow. Go to the gym. Go for a run. Go do some real work. Check your weight and note it every week. You’ll see the progress. You’ll feel more accomplished and happy. You’ll feel hot!
Dressing taste: Wear fitting clothes. The most flattering ones are those that fit you well. When you wear fittig clothes, you ooze confidence. Do not be ashamed of your physical structure be it what it is. You are a beautiful person. Now take pride it in and dress yourself well.
If you wear just tailormade clothes(sounds like a luxury, but in India, for example, they are cheaper than readymades), then go look at some goodlooking readymade clothes. Look at some designer clothes. See how they are constructed. Try to figure out the measurements. Ages ago when I wore tailormades, I’d just take a picture from a magazine and show the tailor. It helped his imagination incredibly in understanding what I wanted from him. He had a good visual model to work on.
Also ask your friends who wear cool-looking tailormades. I had friends in high school who had all the measurements figured out. Yea! All I had to do was ask them, and they’d tell me why this measurement shouldn’t be more than this much. Made a lot of sense.
Or just take a good design garment you have(readymade, perhaps), take it to the tailor, and suggest the variations you want on that. It’s fine if you end up having two or more very similar design pants as long as they both look cool. They will, if the original one was, and you have been to an average tailor even.
If you wear readymades, you can pick and choose. Always go to the trial room if there is one and check out how you look. Sometimes what you are looking at might look okok, but not too attractive, and might turn out to be really cool later on. Happened with me buying a sweater once. I was with a friend who kept saying it was wow. I just wouldnt believe it, as I could see it getting streched near the shoulders in an odd way. Later, that turned out to be the sweaters’ top differentiator. So taking a friend with some dressing sense helps a LOT. You can always take it back to the shop if you haven’t soiled it, and get a different one.
There is a temptation to buy a whole bunch of stuff if you see good material and design; the irressistible looking thing, you know. Generally, I think it’s better to refrain from doing this. But sometimes you just have to trust your judgement and go with it. You’ll learn as you keep buying stuff using your judgement.
Don’t be scared of stores selling designer stuff. No store places an obligation to buy. You can look at stuff, and say no if you don’t like anything particularly well. But it gives you a good idea of what good stuff looks like, whats hot. whats trendy, etc. Also, designer clothes can be cheap too. They can be on sale, or be cheap even at the original price. In India you can get designer stuff for as less as 300 rupees(7$?).
Grooming: Grooming can perhaps as defined as all the things you can do to bring out the beauty. Let me just talk about a few things:
- Cleanliness: matters like anything. Just take some special care. Carry some soft tissues with you so your perspiration isnt the first thing that someone notices about you. Keep your finernails clean. Either have nailpolish, or no nailpolish. Having partially-worn nail-polish is a downer. It spoils the effect of many other things. As much as you might think that you have the right to be given time before you apply a new film of polish, it certainly helps you lose points.
Wear clean clothes. No excuse is acceptable here. And realise that clothes have a life time too. They lose their quality look after prolonged use, and at some point its probably a good idea to think of retiring them even if they’re not torn yet 
- Facial hair: facial hair can be a downer. Especially if looks like a primitive beard or moustache. Do a google and find out what to do about it if you don’t yet know the solution yet 
. I’m no expert on this. There is the fear of it coming out even more aggressively if its shaved, which i perhaps true. Regular removal might be the only solution; I don’t know. Perhaps the beautician who’ll make money for every session will confirm?
- There are many other little things you can do, like using a hair conditioner, sleeping well and drinking water that can make you look much better.
Grace: Gracefullness is beauty! How often do we feel that, dont we. But what exactly is grace?
Grace is what I would call a feminine way of doing things. For it to happen, you have to realize that you are a beautiful individual. You have to know, deep in your mind, that you are admirable, adorable. That you are lovable. That you are beautiful. There are different levels and types of beauty, and you too lie somewhere. That somewhere is called beautiful. You don’t learn it, you have to know it. Start knowing from right now, that you are a beautiful woman.
When you walk, walk with confidence, enjoying the walk, knowing you are making others happy with your beauty.
Smile: This should be obvious, but let me ramble a bit anyways. Smile when you meet someone. Smile when you are talking on the phone. Smile to yourself. Let the smiles spread. Don’t be economic with smiles. Your smile conveys the pleasure you get when you see someone. It also conveys a confidence in yourself. It makes you more attractive. I know so many people(including myself ) who just get hooked by someone’s smile.
When you smile, you aren’t being submissive. You are expressing your happiness. You are expressing hope. You are expressing a desire to live. You ar expressing your determination to overcome anything that comes your way. You deserve a smile of your own. I often feel that when my face forms a smile, I actually feel happier inside. It’s like some philosopher(Henry James?) who said that as much as thoughts affect what we do, actions can affect our thoughts too. Actions can make us feel in a particular way. Smiling makes one feel better.
Thoughts?
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BUT..
despite all these a guy might still reject a girl, b/c such things are not governed by 2+2=4..they r totally random…stochastic would be the right word. You can assign probabilities but u can never be deterministic in such areas.